This weekend I was honored to celebrate the marriage between my cousin (sometimes more like sister) and her forever best friend. It was beautiful and a true testament to this true love that every girl hopes to find. They help and support each other while making each other consistently stronger as they grow in Christ. Naturally, I cried through the rehearsal, the T Swift music in the limo to the ceremony, the gorgeous bride putting on the dress, walking down the aisle and basically the entire ceremony. Rest assured they were All Happy tears; my heart was just too full of joy.
At the reception, my body was out of tears so I grabbed a sweet tea and I just wanted to hit the dance floor. I was so lucky to get to dance with one of my other cousins that I do not get to see very often, named Gracie. We had a blast and danced the night away!
But there is another side of this story, or maybe should be described as a different view. You see, my dance partner has a developmental disorder, some people may say Gracie has special needs. So after we danced, twirled and twisted all over the dance floor many people came up to me to tell me how great I had been and thanked me for dancing with her. The more I thought about it, the more befuddled I became. I should not be thanked even though every one meant it harmlessly. They were happy Gracie was happy and wanted to extend thanks. I understand the reasons but I did nothing special. Nothing that anyone else could not do and nothing I needed to be thanked for. By thanking me for accompanying implies that Gracie is burdensome. That could not be farther from the truth!
Prior to the reception I had been worried that I would have no one to dance with. I was the only one in the bridal party not from the brides home town and I did not bring a plus one, prospects seemed lonely. Then my night was completely turned around when Gracie came to my rescue. She exudes joy and energy and even when I did not know the Top 40 song (I live under a rock) she could catch me up on the words and get me back in sync. I may have actually been the burden because I had to stop multiple times for a water break to keep up, I am not as young as I used to be. My night without her would have consisted of me sitting with my parents feeling self conscience and lame (no offense to my parents who I love and are very cool).
I want to extend my own Thank You.
Thank you to all those beautiful souls who have a special need. You are much more than your special need. You are joyful, kind, humble and always ready to brighten mine or any strangers day. I want to be more like you.
Especially, Thank You Gracie for making the reception last night so fun and memorable. Thank you for teaching me the words and dance moves to "Cheerleader", I had no idea what I was missing out on! You are fabulous so never be nervous to shine. I can not wait until the next time we get to share a dance.
Wander with whimsy,